Saturday, February 16, 2019

February is for Fun and Shenanigans and Cruises

Let the Shenanigans Begin
February is fun around our house for many reasons.  Now that we have 2 children the same age again, we like to have a little fun.  It's almost as much shenanigans as April Fool's.  Every year from Feb. 1 until June 30, Stella and Samuel  are the same age.  When we get the twin question, we simply say “no, they’re 7 months apart.”  If we’re feeling feisty, we walk away and we can almost hear the math in their minds.  Sometimes it’s fun having 2 kiddos the same age and other times there’s a challenge. School has proven to be a tad harder because they’re both learning to read at the same time.  And by “tad”, I mean “quite a bit”.  They’re both making strides in reading because they’re super smart. Stella has struggled a little more, but we’re working on ways to help her more and build confidence.  

It’s the Day of Love and Creativity

I threatened to make Russ a shirt for next year!  Although the shirts didn’t hold us so well, the kids are still kind enough to wear my creations.  They let me help with their valentine’s too, although Samuel declared on 2/13 that he did not want people to see him as a snowman.  Ugh, we must work on timing next year!!  I put their little faces on a snowman and let them choose what the snowman would be holdling. Joey chose that his snowman would hold a book labeled “Warm and Peas”.  Samuel chose a lightsaber and no one is surprised.  Stella’s request was a bowl of Valentine food that looks like dog food. So, that’s what we did!  Funny thing is that we gave hot chocolate because it’s February and supposed to be cold.  BUT, in Texas sometimes you get a beautiful spring day in the middle of February. Hopefully our friends can hang on to their hot chocolate mix for just a few days until the winter weather returns!

Russ surprised me with some beautiful flowers and chocolate covered strawberries!!!  Yum!  He knows me well!  Because we were getting ready for a trip, our gift-giving was kind of thrown off schedule.   We shared gifts with each other a few days later.  The strawberries were well hidden so that we could enjoy them alone!  Joey and I had picked out a little Razorback wall décor while in Arkansas recently.  We figured it won’t hurt for Russ to remind his co-workers that he’s a Hog! The kiddos got heart decorated food in their lunch, which is probably way more fun for me to prepare than for them to eat.  I may have painted on their sandwich bread with food coloring and butter.  It may have gotten all over their hands at lunch.  Maybe. Ok, it did!  






I encouraged my parents to see each other on Valentine’s Day, which they did.  It was a quick visit for them, but it was good for them to see that the other is healthy and getting around well.  I took Mom to visit at Dad’s place.  One bonus to Spring in February is that we got to enjoy time outside in the garden. Mom had requested valentine gifts for the kids, so she and I had stopped by a store a few days earlier.  We got Dad a new basket shelf for his room for Valentine’s Day.  He likes to straighten up, so I thought a little shelf next to his chair might come in handy for magazines and snacks.  I try to keep things off the floor to avoid a tripping hazard, so it seemed like a perfect fit for his room.  Mom prefers pictures of the kids and snacks, so that’s what we got her this year. Both parents received cards and gifts from friends and family.  I sure hope everyone felt love!!

Heaven on Earth
We’ve had a few weeks of extreme trip planning!  Being away from home for more than 2 days Is quite the task by way of laundry and kid preparation.  Preparing to leave 3 kids, 3 dogs, and 2 parents was a bit harder than I had anticipated.  On top of that, SuSu had been torn between a daughter and granddaughter that needed her for a few days.  Thankfully our baby niece is on the mend and getting the care and sleep she needs.  

We have a village of friends and family who stepped in to ease our worries and offer encouragement while we figured out the plans.  One "lucky" family got to care for all three kids all day long...and drove us to the airport too.  It was like showing up at the Uber driver's house so that s/he could not deny you a ride.  Pretty smart, hu?  Our kiddos’ teachers were willing to take our kids home with them if needed.  I joke that my teacher friends are way more qualified to care for my kiddos than I am because they teach and survive a room-full of kids each and every day.  I think their super hero capes are tucked in their shirts.  We even shared our dogs with dear friends too because it seemed like a lot to leave SuSu with.  Hattie is "vacationing" at her amazing foster family's home and Tipper is being spoiled by our dear friends from school.  Matilda is home on guard duty (aka barks at nothing and eats dropped food), which means absolutely nothing has changed for her!  Thanks to the most wonderful SuSu ever, we are now off on an adventure of a lifetime. We will eat more dumplings than we can count.  I will try new foods, but will not eat eyeball soup!  We will ride in a tuk tuk and learn to dodge traffic.  We will see the beautiful people and scenery that God stretched out to the other side of the globe.  I will sleep a lot, but I will also work on our school’s yearbook and my family’s scrapbooks and I will somehow still fit in the bridesmaid’s dress for Wendy’s wedding!  Those are the goals anyway!  If you need us, too bad!  We are on vacation thanks to a company that has gifted us in a way they can't even imagine!

“Many, O Lord my God, are the wonders you have done. The things you 
planned for us no one can recount to you; were I to speak ad tell of them, 
they would be too many to declare.”
Psalm 40:5



Friday, February 1, 2019

Say It Ain't So

Is it true that Samuel is 7?  

If I could freeze time, this is the age I would choose.  Samuel was in fact tearful last night about turning 7.  I thought we were about to have a cry fest...because I wanted to join in.  He's so sweet and fun.  Samuel is reading and full of curiosity.  He loves to dress up and wear costumes of any kind.   He still thinks his Mom and Dad are cool.  We couldn't love him any more than we already do.  

Birthday Morning

The only 7 year old I know who would 
be thrilled with a package of ties!

Birthday cake of his choice: Oreo ice cream cake

Of note, he was not a fan of the trick candles.  
Also, he was out of breath after this picture!


If I could talk to his China Mom and Dad today, I would tell them that Samuel is a joy!  He still talks about them and asks about his nanny.  He knows that I stay in touch with his nanny.  I'd love to tell his first parents that he is hilarious and loves to talk.  This kid never stops talking!  He's a little cranky in the morning, but warms up quickly.  He loves to hug and kiss us.  Samuel is so sweet to his teacher and concerned for his friends.  He can be feisty at times and sometimes takes his brother's toys.  He is literal and takes comments to heart.  If I could choose an animal to describe Samuel, I would choose a monkey.  This kid can hang from any bar and climb any rock/cliff.  I would also thank his parents for choosing life and making an excruciating decision in order to care for their son.  We are loving him the best we can and hope they would be proud of the little guy he is turning into.  Maybe one day we'll meet his first parents, but until then...we are grateful for another birthday to celebrate Samuel.  He's a gift!

"Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him."
Psalm 127:3





Sunday, January 6, 2019

Keep Reminding Me: Priorities in 2019

What's important to you?



We're talking about priorities with our kiddos this year!  Be careful when talking about this with Samuel.  Somehow we ended up talking about the Tower of Babel.  That kid's mind amazes and confuses me!  In case you're wonder, we did talk more about the Tower of Babel after our Priorities discussion.

We have marriage goals and family goals hanging on the side of the refrigerator.  For me personally, these are some of my goals.  My spiritual momma has to remind me of boundaries often.  I only receive 24 hours in a day and time does not slow down.  Fun Fact: limiting the food of my children does not make them grow slower.  I tried.  Once.

This is what happens.  The kids take over the kitchen. 
They all love to cook and help in the kitchen!  

1) Focus more on my little family.  We are trying so hard to teach these kids to make good choices and be responsible.  Also, we want them to know they're important to us.  Fun one-on-one dates with the kids are on the goal list, in addition to husband-wife dates.  We will have a new way of displaying their art work in our home too so that our refrigerator is not discussed as an art display.

My paper calendar wasn't big enough, so I got a bigger one this year!
That's why there's not enough room for all the art work.

2) Focus on extended family.  I'm working on a wall of pictures to display our extended family as well as our friends whom we treat like family.  I'm finally going to put my camera's picture-taking obsession to our walls.  Let's just  say that the Walgreeens guy will not only know my last name, but my first name too!

3) Visit family and friends more (to obtain needed pictures for display at our house).  If I have your address, you might be a "target".  If you live outside of Texas...you are not immune!  I think I proved that a few weeks ago in Arkansas!  If you live nearby, you'll probably want to look out the window before opening your front door...um, from this day forward!

4) I want to send more cards, including catching up on thank you notes.  Some of you lucky folks may receive a thank you note so old that I have no idea the word contents inside.  It's called an "extended thank you" over here!  I even found some addressed envelopes in my closet from previous Christmas cards.  I'm going to use them to send happy mail (not bills)!

5) I hope to use my creativity.  I'm shuffling things around the house and pulling out things that have been hidden in our closet.  Trying to declutter at the same time.  Whoa!  Warning: You may get a gift with your name on it this year.  I hope I have the correct spelling!  I feel like Shutterfly is spying on me.  I'm a sucker for a good deals and they know it!


New cabinet purchased with a coupon and 
hauled by the hubby's new truck!  Still working on 
organizing as you can see by the wreath holder attacked by papers!

6) Be real and honest.  I think I got a head start with our FB Christmas picture! Life can be messy and unorganized...beautiful and full of hope too.  I try to reign it in with my parents' blog since apparently people from other counties are reading that blog (weird).  Who do my parents know in India?  For this blog, I'll make sure to post before and after pictures so everyone can see that our house is not always clean and my family does not always take a "pretty picture".  Personally, I think the silly faces are the best!  Ask the kids at school that I photograph each month for character awards!  Ha!

7) Be silly and fun.  April Fool's is one of my favorite days!  Ask Russ about the joke I played on him pre-kids.  Mention the word CARPET.  He remembers.  As we do our acts of kindness this year, some acts just may be from our April Fool's stash!  Also, you can ask my friends who have received (or will receive) joke gifts for Christmas...including our hilarious friend from the bank and the girls who work at Mom's memory care!

Hold me accountable!  Remind me often.  If you don't receive a fun card this year, send us a Christmas cards next year to make sure we have your correct address.  If I haven't showed up at your house to take a picture, I might be in trouble!  It could mean that my kids have tied me up and you need to come check on me.  Can you bring your phone too so I can make sure we get a picture for the wall...once you get me uptied?  Notice that Facebook is not on my goal list.  I do not have messenger on my phone (on purpose).  If you have an emergency, it's better to send a text.  Make sure your spelling is correct and your language is appropriate because all three kids can read now!  YIKES! I do, however, recommend calling 9-1-1 first because sometimes my phone is on silent!  Just being honest...


He says, “Be still, and know that I am God;
    I will be exalted among the nations,
    I will be exalted in the earth.”
Psalm 46:10


Tuesday, January 1, 2019

Extended Christmas and a Fun-Packed Trip

We had a super busy Christmas season with family!  Busy...in a good way!  We had a lot of family time and made the most of our short visit in Arkansas a few days after Christmas.  

A couple years ago we started staying home Christmas day.  We've tried to be intentional with celebrating family and focusing on Jesus' birth.  Not that we don't love our extended family, but we realized that the season was getting so busy that we were losing focus.  Priorities were getting shifted due to distraction.  So, like the previous few years, we celebrated at home.  We did invite a couple fiends to join us, but they had other plans.  Maybe they've just been around us enough to know, that all is not calm at our home.  Between 3 kids and 3 dogs, you just never know what's going happen around here!



We had a quiet morning at home that started with a search for Baby Jesus by starlight (flashlight).  I even made the kids put a square cloth over their heads to be shepherds.  We enjoyed a quiet morning at home talking about Jesus, eating blueberry pancakes for breakfast, and opening gifts. That evening was quite exciting with my parents.  You can see the link to their blog and Christmas miracle update here:

https://texasstells.blogspot.com/2018/12/its-christmas-miracle.html


On 12/26, we went on a train ride thanks to Santa!  He sure knows how to pick good gifts, doesn't he?  We had a fun-filled 5 hours together with no electronics and lots of laughter!

Boarding the train

 
We walked to lunch at this yummy Thai restaurant

Joey and Daddy had a word search competition

Just before we arrived at our last stop

The very next day we left for Arkansas for the Webb Christmas, SuSu's birthday, and family time with the Stells.  Our car pretty much knows it's way around Central Arkansas now.  The number of Stells we crammed in one day is amazing!  I'm going to just post a long list of pictures below.  I keep hearing that a picture is worth a thousand words.  Let's see if that is true!

A visit with Russ' grandmother, Mama Nina

Cohen and SuSu opening his gift

The cousins doing what cousins do

Pearl and our newest niece, Collier

Isaac really loves his horse!

The clones - Big Joe and Russ

The kids with Randy and Diane
The bacon was A-MAZING!

Aunt Mary buried beneath our kiddos!

SuSu's birthday celebration (minus a couple grands)

The kids' bonus grandparents - my Aunt Lucy and Uncle Ping

Courtney and Teresa let us crash their time together.  
The kids loved getting to kick back and just watch tv!

Seeing Paw Paw once we got back from Arkansas

Hoo Hoo let us come visit for a bit when we got back in town

* Somehow Aunt Judy and Uncle Louis escaped my camera.  This time.  I saw what you did there, Aunt Judy.  You shared that fascinating ring miracle as I was walking out. You distracted me to avoid the camera!  Ha!  We did discover a neat feature of Uncle Louis' car key on this trip though.  It just proves that being easily amused runs in the family!  Between that and naps, Uncle Louis and I are practically twins!  

Looking forward to 2019!  If you hear the doorbell ring, you better look through the peep hole.  You may see our crew and try to run out the backdoor.  Chances are we're going to hear you and chase you down for a hug!!!  If you don't see yourself in the pictures above, we're coming for you next time.  I'm gathering more addresses (Matt, that's you now), so don't be surprised if we just show up.  I literally texted Diane, Courtney, and Teresa the day before and invited myself for a visit.  We had a wonderful time in Arkansas.  I'd say we made the most of our 2 1/2 days in Conway!  

If anyone wonders where Tipper stays while we're in Conway, see the picture below.  We have some amazing friends who spoil this antique dog like nothing she's ever known.  There are times that I think Tipper may sneak out one night and go over to their house.  Tipper stays a mile from our house and lives it up with our dear friends!


"God sets the lonely in families..."
Psalm 68:6

I used to think "lonely" meant anyone without a family.  Not true.  We're all 
lonely at some point in our lives, but God sets us in a family...could be a 
neighborhood family, a school family, work family, a church family.
Know who your family is.  And if you ever get lonely, come on over!  I 
promise you won't be lonely here with our crew!



Wednesday, December 26, 2018

Welcome 2019: Who are the people in your neighborhood?

Who Are the People In Your Neighborhood?
Sometimes I lose focus as to who I'm supposed to be encouraging and helping.  A very wise "Shrenda" once told me to focus on my little family and set boundaries for who I help.  Not that helping others is bad, but she knows I am easily distracted and need to be reminded.  She has reminded me of this for YEARS!  

For the first time in our family, we've set Family Goals.  I won't share them all, but I can say that we plan to be intentional with our marriage and our kids.  We plan to have budget meetings (which will include a spreadsheet overview, per my Accountant).  Rest assured, I'll take pictures all along the way.  Um, not of the budget meetings though, because those are confidential and will require a password to attend!


The social media version of our family
Our friends know the real version!!  

My mom and my childhood friend, Julie, were visiting on 
the day our amazing photographer captured these.  

We got started in December with Acts of Kindness.  Thankfully they are posted on FB so I won't lose them.  Also, they're not specific to December, so anyone can use them any time. All 5 of us survived those Acts of Kindness, so I'd say they are doable.  Maybe doing them every single day was a bit much for us, but it was a great way to refocus on others.  They helped the kids get creative in ways they give "gifts" to others.  Mostly importantly, it helped them think of others!  The acts related a Bible verse, so the kids can understand why we do what we do in our family.  My sweet husband lead them each morning at breakfast like it was second nature to him.  And writing them helped me see things from a new perspective and God let me use my creativity too!! 


Here's a blank version for anyone who might be able to use them!

One day, when life slows down I want to look back at 2018 and share what I learned from the process of moving my parents to Texas.  There is so much more to that story than I can fathom.  I'm still processing the events and the miracles.  Our family is still sifting through the pains and challenges too.  Our 2018 has definitely been one of growth.  All in all, it was a great year.  Seems funny to even say that given the challenges.  Even our new bank friend shakes his head at all we've accomplished and faced head on.  He doesn't even know the half of it!  

Our 2018 has been filled with challenges within our own family as well as challenges for some of our dearest friends.   My husband can tell you that I almost burned up my phone with texts over the summer!  Between my own neediness and the needs of my hurting friends, my texting thumb is ready to go on vacation.  HA!  Encouraging words and reminders of Truth pretty much ruled my phone for months.  The texts went both ways though.  Friends stood in the gap for me when I was taking my parents to court and traveling to Arkansas.  They also brought meals to my family so that Russ didn't have to do "both jobs" (as Samuel so lovingly puts it) while I was away.  Our house suffered while I was in survival mode.  Thankfully there's grace and a helping hand!  It opened my eyes to the need for more help around the house, which the kids and hubby are stepping up to tackle!  

We've had friends battling cancer and friends with big marital challenges.  These are all friends we've known for years, which made it comfortable.  Is that even a thing?  A comfortable time of challenges?  It's seems to be easier to walk these hard roads with people we've known for years.  It's easier to open up to them when you've seen the challenges they've faced too.  Some friends I've blogged about recently and some I haven't...yet!  I cannot change the name of everyone I include in blogs because I simply can't keep all the fake names straight in my head.  In fact, my phone now autocorrects "Drenda" to "Shrenda".  It also autocorrects "placemats" to body part names, so clearly it's unreliable and uneducated anyway!  I will say that having a group of friends who now randomly gift each other keeps life interesting.  Sometimes we know the gift-giver and sometimes we don't.  That part is fun!  


      This was my first friend party since childhood!  It was just what I needed 
            this year!  Thanks to my spiritual momma for making this happen!

God has brought additional spiritual mommas in my path since the summer.  To my surprise, they all text like a bunch of teen girls!  They share verses and Truth.  They make me laugh and check in on me.  One super quiet pastor's wife even listens to TMac, so she went up a point on my "She's All That" scale!!  Maybe one day I'll blog about these ladies too!  In my free time...

Some HUGE highlights of December 2018:
1) Joey got baptized on Dec. 16!  This special day made my eyes "sweat" a tiny bit.  My mom was able to go to church with us this morning.  We had our church family crowded in the back. And my amazing in-laws SURPRISED us by just showing up...as if they just happened to be in the neighborhood SIX HOURS AWAY FROM HOME!  It was definitely a day to remember  You can watch his baptism at the link below.
http://www.firstcolleyville.com/baptisms#!/swx/pp/media_archives/297342/episode/76673


2) Russ and I celebrated 14 years of marriage on Dec. 18!  Our school and lock Karate business offered a date night where we could drop the kids off to learn self-defense, eat dinner, and watch a movie.  Then, my hubby took me out to a favorite Italian restaurant that we haven't had a chance to visit in months!  Such a sweet treat...and yes, I shared my dessert!


Ok, I'm chasing squirrels like my spiritual momma "Shrenda", so stay tuned for more adventures of our family in 2019.  I'd like to say I'll do better about blogging, but I'm not sure that's a reliable statement.  After all, I'm "yearbook staff" for my kids' school.  I love love love that opportunity.  I use it be funny and gift others, so it's fun to me.  Oh, and I love pictures!!  Things are better at home with the kids since the summer.  I've been seeing a counselor to help me sift through the things of my childhood - both good and bad - that have made me who I am today.  The communication is improving in our marriage and we're actively working together to make life better! 


"The LORD has done great things for us, and we are filled with joy."
Psalm 126:3




Friday, December 7, 2018

Are Those Eggs on the Street?

As we've been teaching our kids this months about acts of kindness, it hit me today.  We're 6 days in and it's becoming more clear how these little acts are changing our family.  I'm a little slow to see it sometimes!  So, my question is...what am I teaching my kids?  We're working through acts that don't cost money.  It's things we often overlook (me included).  So, I've been trying to do these acts right along side them.  Some days are harder than others.  And sometimes it's just a matter of perspective to see that it's not as difficult as I initially envisioned.  

My friend, Tera, is facing a very serious diagnosis...for the second time in her young life.  She was a teacher before the C word hit.  She was and still is a mother.  No illness can take that away!  I remember asking her in the past about different teaching techniques to use at home.  And I still pick her brain when it comes to parenting a certainly little girl in our home.  When she was diagnosed with cancer just over a year ago, Tera's world was rocked in a big way.  She faced an unusual cancer discovered in an unusual way.  Her sweet momma said this about her...


"Leave it to my Tera to be atypical - but then she always 
has been and she's always been a fighter and I praise God 
she's His before mine and that He holds her in His hands."

She was forced to give up teaching.  It's something she's gifted at doing.  She donated some of her supplies to another teacher and some she packed up to use at home. Did it hurt to leave her classroom for the last time as the teacher?  Oh, I bet it did, but she did it.  She left her classroom behind because it's what was best for her family and her health.  Did she give up teaching all together?  Nope!  God had already given her 2 little cuties to parent with her amazing husband.  And they have been teaching those 2 littles together for all of their young lives.  

The youngest cutie is quite the deep thinker.  In fact, Tera shared that he asked if someone threw eggs on the road.  If you look closely at the yellow reflectors in the street, they're adhered with white cement that spreads out around the reflector.  I see reflectors, but this little one sees eggs!  His mind...it's almost overwhelmingly creative.  Their oldest is a quiet little girl who throws her momma for a loop sometimes, but is so sweet and gentle too.  I joke with my friend that naps are for her sanity and their safety.  Maybe that part is truth disguised as a joke.  But my friend knows when to soak in the tender moments with her kids and be intentional.  One morning, Tera texted to say that she had been awake thinking about her future and her health.  And then a few texts later, she said her sweet girl had come in to cuddle and that's where she would be for awhile.  Also, Tera has been intentional with her husband too.  They make the most of every opportunity together even if it involves working on the farm and plowing fields, literally!

This is what I've learned from Tera since her initial diagnosis:
1)  Keep your circle small in the beginning.  Sometimes you have to do this to avoid rumors or confusion, but sometimes you have to do it to protect those closest to you.  If you have deep thinkers that see "eggs" on the road, you know you have to be careful about what information is shared and when.

2)  Be honest about your struggles, but still continue to check on those around you.  More than once, I'll get a text asking about my day or my marriage or my parents.  She's still checking in on me, which means she's likely checking in on others too.  

3)  Be intentional and make the most of every opportunity.  Don't give up teaching your kids.  You may not have a classroom at a school, but you do have an audience wherever you go.  Cuddles are even teaching moments too!  If your hubby is as awesome as Tera's, you'll go on a date day after doctors' appointments.  Remember?  Be intentional.  Just to brag on her husband, Lee has come out fighting when insurance coverage arose.  He's a farmer with boxing gloves on...except he would never hit anyone.  Ever. 


4)  Leave a legacy.  It may be in pictures or words or activities, but find out what works for your family.  Tera hasn't let this disease steal her sense of adventure and wonder.  Her kids are little.  She knows that Christmas lights and music speak to them.  She knows her audience well.  And I've learned from Tera too that it's not about making scrapbooks with the pictures.  The memories are implanted in the mind and the pictures can remind. Someone else can plug pictures into a scrapbook later while Tera's out chasing her kids on their next adventure!  I do remind her to take pictures though!

5)  Know the Truth, but also never give up.  Tera knows the medical side of her diagnosis.  She probably knows just enough to scare herself.  But she also knows the Truth that God will heal her one way or another.  And she's not giving up. She's just honest some days that it's overwhelming and scary.  That doesn't mean she'll cancel her child's birthday party for fear of germs.  It just means she's keep a bubble around herself to limit germs.  She also knows the One who made her and hears her prayers and will eventually heal.  I'm praying and believing for more years here on earth!

6) Also, laugh.  If you can't laugh, find someone who can make you laugh.  Tera let's me be that person for her sometimes.  I can turn pretty much anything in to a sarcastic joke.  I have to reign it in some days, but for the most part, I think she laughs at my jokes.  For example, when one of our friends said her labs (blood work) were good, I replied with a picture of my lab (dog)!  Tera can dish it out too.  She sent me this. She told me which one made her think of me.



Tera's illness has not be wasted on me.  It's actually grown my prayer life.  And if begging the Lord for a friend's life out loud is "acceptable", then I've been "acceptable" quite a bit lately.  She has touched way more lives than mine and I doubt she even knows that at times.  Much like my spiritual parents, I'm watching and learning from her.  Tera's barely younger than me, but definitely taller.  So, I can call her my sister...not big sister, but maybe wise, taller sister!  I still have so much more to learn from her.


"The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he 
will never leave you nor forsake you.  Do not be afraid; 
do not be discouraged."
Deut. 31:8




Sunday, December 2, 2018

Shrenda, Come Back! Don't chase that Squirrel!

Trust and Squirrels

One of the most important things I've learned from Shrenda over the years is trust.  Because I know I can trust her, I also know I can trust what she says.  Shrenda has told me most recently:

1.  Set boundaries.
2.  Keep unity in your marriage.
3.  Take care of your kids before taking care of others

The list could go on and on, but we'll start with those.  You know how Shrenda knows so much?  Because she knows the one who is Truth...the Lord!  She is quick to point me back to Him in any situation.  

1.  Setting boundaries is healthy.  If you run yourself down, you're no good to anyone.  If you try to help every single person that has needs, you'll never be able to care for them fully because you'll spread yourself thin.  Also, you may end up taking on the role that someone else was purposed for.

2.  Once you're married, you are one.  It's about working together.  We tell our kids often "we're a team", which drives them nuts sometimes.  We may not always sleep under the same roof or go to bed at the same time, but we can strive for unity in many others ways.  Good communication can even lead to unity, which is good for me because I love words and my hubby hears words well!

3.  Taking care of your little family is important.  I get side tracked sometimes and I try to help people in foreign lands and forget my own little three.  I prayed to have lots of children  but sometimes I forget to focus on my 3 answers to prayer.  That may be putting a note in their lunch or looking them in the eye for a 5 minute conversation on pirates, video games, and making jewelry (all things I know absolutely nothing about).  It's the little things in life...for real!

Squirrels
As for squirrels, that's more of an inside joke.  Slim Billion has known Shrenda since he saw her beautiful golden locks at the bus stop.  I think that was back in the 80's, but I'm not certain!  Anyway, Shrenda gets caught up in a bunch of things and her mind gets distracted easily.  Sound like anyone you know?  

One thing I can say about Shrenda and chasing multiple ideas at the same time, is that she still points things back to the Lord.  It may a cookie party or home decor.  It may be an illness or swimming.  She has a way of knowing how those things fit in the details of life.  And she knows the Giver of life, so she can point anyone back to Him.  Even in her illness, she points people to the Lord.  Does she do it with tears?  Sometimes.  Does she do it with laughter?  Yep.  Does Shrenda do it with gifts? You bet.  That's the thing about truth...it doesn't change!  So, no matter situations we're facing, there's Truth to be found.  Sometimes it takes longer to see it.  Sometimes it's painful to get there.  And sometimes we may laugh so hard we can't catch our breath.  

Birthday Party
My sweet Shrenda hosted a birthday party for me this year on the day SHE HAD A MEDICAL PROCEDURE!  This lady.  Again, she trusted that it would happen, even if Slim had to cook dinner.  And we all know Slim would've rather been learning Hebrew than cooking dinner for a bunch of girls that want to talk about potty training, gift ideas, and swings.  Shrenda knew that my momma was unable to host a party and that my own little family was struggling with the added stress of caring for my parents.  Also, the last friend party I remember was at McDonald's.  

Sorry!  I didn't have time to conceal identities.  Still no one knows which 
girl is Shrenda!  For fun, there's a teacher, a creative mind, a therapist, 
a nurse, a preschool teacher, a momma, and a sarcastic funny girl.  Just realized 
there's a shirt maker missing from the picture! See if you can figure it out!

Funny thing is that this party was far from what anyone expected.  Some fiends were afraid to come because their lives had changed so drastically.  But one friend even drove an hour to see us!  And you know what?  The party was AMAZING!!  In typical Shrenda fashion, she coined this group of ladies a funny name because of life's challenges.  Thankfully laughter was a big part of the evening.  So, thanks to squirrels and Shrenda, I had an amazing evening!  Also, my sweet husband cared for our kiddos so I could enjoy the evening!  There's that unity and caring for the kids Shrenda talked about!!  I could go on for days...

If anyone sees Shrenda, please don't tell her that I think I'm so much like her.  And if you know Slim, pray for him!  He loves his wife so big, but mostly he's gonna need some running to shoes to keep up with Shrenda.  She's going places in life!  I can see Slim chasing her while yelling "what else?"  


"For the word of the Lord is right and true; he is faithful in all he does." 
Psalm 33:4